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Finding Time To Find Your SoulmateBy: Brian Fradet on April 16th, 2008Ok, so here we are in the 21st century, we as a society move at the speed of light. Who has the time to actually sit down and interact with anyone much less really get to know someone enough to know if they are your soulmate. So, here you are. You have a decent job you are trying to make work and earn more money. You put in more time into your job than you really should. You also try to work on your personal being to try and find balance between work and play. You have the weekend to let your hair down and have fun, but then it is back to the grindstone on Monday morning. The same process repeats over and over week after week. You want to pull your hair out and break this crazy cycle. So what are some options for finding your soulmate with this crazy cycle? Option 1, I call “Looking For Your Soulmate in All The Wrong Places” This is where you call out dancing all weekend at your local dancing spot. You meet a really hot guy and the two of you tango a few weeks or more. Something may come out of it, but the likelihood of meeting your soulmate this way is really low. Most of the guys you are are going to meet at your local dancing spot at looking for one thing and not really wanting to think about commitment and finding their soulmate. Option 2, I call “Taking The Easy Way Out” We all know about match.com and other dating services on the web. Do they really work? Who knows? Have you really ever met anyone face to face who found their soulmate online? Granted the bar scene has been around longer than online dating, but we are talking a good 10 years here about online dating. Surely, you have heard the horror stories of online dating by now!! Option 3, I Call “The Friend Helping a Friend” Back many years I helped my roommate get hooked up with a friend of a friend I knew. Things worked out between for a good period of time. In the end, they ended up not being soulmates, but this avenue is a little more trusting than trying to meet total strangers online or in a bar. It is kinda like taking your car to a mechanic that someone knows. You will have better luck in situations like these because their is an amount of trust already built up between people you know. So, the next time one of your friends tells you have to meet this hot guy that I know from a friend of a friend you might just want to be open minded and think it over a little. Option 4, “Meeting Your Soulmate At Work” With the way our society lives it is very easy to mix work and play together very easy. You know what I am talking about!! The guy just down the hall who checks you out and gives you a big smile every time you pass by. This kind of day to day interaction allows the two of you to get to know one another without having the pressure of dating of making a relationship work. This is nice, but as with anything you have to be careful. Work relationships that don’t end up working out can put yourself in an awkward situation where your work environment can get really weird. So be careful with this option of finding your soulmate. Option 5, “The Perfect Way Of Finding Your Soulmate” I have talked about 4 different ways of finding your soulmate and none of those options are 100% bullet proof ways of finding your soulmate. So, what is the perfect way of finding your soulmate? That is totally 100% up to you. Everyone works differently and everyone has their own way of living life. Plus, you never really know when you are going to find your soulmate. He might be that guy you just passed in the freezer aisle of the grocery store, but he is definitely not the guy that just whistled at you while you were walking into the grocery store. You have to keep you eyes and ears open. You need to know what kind of qualities you are looking for in a soulmate. Make a list and on this list jot down qualities you will not bend on and then also make note of the qualities you will bend on. You will need to bend on qualities because your soulmate will not have every single quality you want. Your soulmate will talk to you on a level you have no idea how to speak. Your soulmate will grab you and lift you off your feet like no other. It will just happen. Period. So, the perfect way of finding your soulmate is to be open and know what it is you are looking for in your soulmate and in life. Finding Your Soulmate In The 21st CenturyBy: Brian Fradet on April 9th, 2008Welcome to 2008, it is nothing like the generation of our parents. Back then social aspect of life was so much more different. There were no such devices like cell phones to keep in touch with everyone. Everyone had to pretty interact face to face and maybe talk on the phone, but that was it. Today there is the possibility of finding your soulmate on the other side of the world!! Could you imagine talking in real time with your soulmate on the other side of the world in real time. The possibility of this actually occurring is pretty small, but it is possible. The same ways you would communicate and court your soulmate is very much the same way even if your soulmate lives right down the road. With technologies like Instant Messaging, e-mail, social media networks, sms text messages, cell phones and lets not forget face to face interaction will tell you a lot about your future potential soulmate. Here are a couple things to really to keep an out while courting your soulmate using all of the great technology we have at out hands. First off let us take a simple email conversation. Look at your soulmate’s email and analyze it a little. Look for the following red flags:
These are just a couple of things to keep an eye out for when you are looking at your future soulmate. They can tell you a lot of the person and how they operate. With other technologies like sms texting and instant messaging this will tell you if your soulmate can be reliable. If he replies back to you quickly it tells you, he is putting thought into you and he feels you are important to him. Even if he tells you, he is busy he is respecting you and letting you what is going on. Don’t jump too quickly if he doesn’t reply quickly though. He could be away from his computer of phone and really can’t reply back. Normally, you will see some sort of pattern in his mode of operations. Pay attention and it will make itself clear. The last thing I want to mention about these great technologies is that they are also tattlers. If he is getting a text message from someone while you are with him it will be a tell tell sign of what is going on. You can always ask to borrow his phone and see what is going on for yourself. Be aware though he has the same option available to him. So, if you are looking for your soulmate in multiple places, he just might be doing the same also. Talk and work it out. It is just one more test to see if he is truly your soulmate. Learn and ListenBy: Brian Fradet on April 3rd, 2008Going through life I have always found you can learn a lot from listening to what people are saying. I am not much of a person of small talk conversation, but I do listen a lot. Many times when you are dating who might be your soulmate, you aren’t really listening to the person you are dating. Let me give you an example, let’s say you are dating a person who smokes. You are really not a person who really smokes, but this person tries not to smoke when you are around. There are two different perspectives here. First, your perspective. You see this person is trying to not smoke around you and respect you. You see the respect and are very appreciative. There are probably many other traits this person has that attract you to him and so the thought of “Oh, I am now worried about the smoking thing. He will stop once we get married.” Has this issues ever been brought out into the open? Have you asked this person to stop smoking? More than likely the answer is no. Why is it no? You are in love and in your heart everything will work out without any problems. Your soulmate’s perspective. I like this person and I notice she does not smoke. I will respect her and not smoke around her. I don’t really intend on quitting though. I hope she doesn’t ask me to quit. Years later after the two of you get married, you are sick of tired of your husband smoking and you have asked several times for him to stop. He doesn’t stop and tension grows between the two of you. Is this what you are wanting for you and your soulmate? No way!!! How do you go about addressing this issue? From the very beginning you need to do one of two things. Either you need to address the smoking issue from the start of the relationship or you need to accept your smoking soulmate and live your life together. Life is full of fun and exciting adventures everyday. Make everyday wonderful and live it to it’s fullest extent. How do you know if someone is your soulmate?By: Brian Fradet on April 2nd, 2008To start off this blog entry, I would like to say knowing if someone is your soulmate is kinda like being the one. You know it through and through without a doubt. I know it sounds a little cheesy taking a quote like from a well known movie, but it is the truth. You will know your soulmate is your soulmate beyond a shadow of a doubt. Where there ever be a time where you are really angry at your soulmate? You better believe there will be a time where you just want to yell, shout and scream at your soulmate, but your soulmate is still your soulmate. What can you do to overcome and get through the rough times with your soulmate? Here are 4 easy to use tips that will help you and your soulmate out.
Follow these 4 steps once you have found your soulmate and you will live a wonderful life with the partner of your dreams for the rest of your life. What is a Soulmate?By: Brian Fradet on April 1st, 2008In life we all want to be live the rest of our years with our soulmates. Women have this need much more than men, but men do want to find the person they are most compatible with so they are not living alone for the rest of their life. A simple definition of a soulmate is a person you want to spend the rest of your life with. This is the idea we all have in our head, but with life our ideas do not come about. The reality of life is we as humans tend to focus on the bad traits and habits our loved one has. These bad traits and habits stir bad emotions and that is why there is divorce. When people get divorced they look for another person without the bad habits and traits of their ex. Then more bad emotions start stirring again and some times the loop starts again. Here are some basic facts about relationships.
How do we overcome this vicious cycle of not being married to our soulmate? As with anything in life we need to have a plan in place. For the most part we know what attributes we are looking for in a soulmate. These attributes should be written out for you to reflect on. When you think you have found your possible soulmate, check out the attributes on your list and see if he is a match or not. If everything doesn’t check out, talk about it and go from there. Not everything on your list can be perfect with soulmate, but if the two of you are willing to talk and communicate then he is closer to becoming your soulmate than you thought. So, what is a soulmate? A person you have envisioned in your head and on paper, who is willing to talk, communicate, and spend the rest of their life with you. |
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